When you're first thinking about swinging, you want to ask yourself why it is that you're interested. Are you looking for more sex? This isn't a good reason, although it does happen.

Swinging isn't about more action or getting to have sex with other people without consequence. It's about sharing a beautiful part of your life-your partner-with other people. It's about living out your fantasies and helping your partner live out his or hers. Swinging is really about learning to move past your inhibitions and exploring the side of you that yearns to be free.

And you have to have a strong partnership in place already to start with swinging. If your marriage or relationship is kind of rocky and you think that this might help-you're wrong. This can complicate your already difficult issues.

But if you feel that your relationship is rock hard, then it's time to talk about swinging.

The big talk

Sit your partner down when you're good and relaxed. Make sure that you don't have any distractions or anywhere to be. You may want to stay at home for this conversation or at least somewhere that you both feel comfortable and open.

Be honest and talk about the things that you have been thinking about. Tell him or her about swinging if they don't already know about it, and ask what their opinion is. You may be surprised to hear that they too are interested and have begun to fantasize about it. But they just didn't know how to approach you.

Well then, let's stop wasting time, shall we?

Be specific about what you want from swinging and what you want to do. Do you want sex with someone else, or do you want to just be in the same room with another couple?

Letting those fantasies out

This might be a long conversation that stretches over months.

Go to local swingers clubs to find out more information. You may even be about to talk with an experienced swinger couple about their experiences.

Search online for other swinging couples and find out what they love about swinging and how they got started. Or just search for information. http://www.swingingresources.com is the perfect place to get started.

Be specific. This is no time to be shy. Are there limits to your swinging? Are their particular kinds of couples that you're looking for? And then there's the dreaded worry of a partner who just isn't interested in swinging. At all.

If you're in a solid relationship, then this shouldn't cause you to have any problems from just bringing it up. And you need to respect your partner's wishes about swinging. If he or she doesn't want to do it, then drop it. Maybe they will change their minds, but that is not up to you. Of course, you may also want to talk about the option of you playing with swinging couples by yourself.

Swinging is a lifestyle that celebrates partnership and commitment to each other to making each other happy. Release that fantasy to your partner and maybe you'll be swinging soon.