When you meet a woman, you should NEVER, EVER, try to impress her by boasting about what job you do, how much money you have or any other material thing to "prove" to her that you are "a good catch." You see, psychologists have found that in any interaction between two or more people, the person that is trying to impress the other will be seen (perceived) as having LOWER social value and therefore less attractive. In a sense, it's almost as if the person is "selling themselves" a little bit too hard. And what is your reaction when you come across a salesman desperate to sell you something? You would put a barrier up to avoid the sale. If I met you and we got chatting and you started to tell me all about your great job or your fantastic car, and all I was doing was quietly listening to you talking and bragging about all your "achievements," you know what will happen after a while? You would strangely begin to NEED to tell me more and more things that make you look good to live up to your image that you have built up in my mind. So if you've been telling me how great your car is, you would feel the need to order the most expensive drinks if we went out for a few beers. Because if you don't you'd be thinking that I'm wondering how you can afford a great car but buying cheap drinks. You'd feel the need to constantly live up to the image you presented to me from the start of your boasting. If you feel the need to impress a woman with any of your achievements, like your job, or money, or travelling experience, there is a way to do it whereby you avoid the trap of qualifying yourself and having lower value and therefore coming across as an unattractive guy. That way is through story telling. What you simply do is this: you take that car or that job, or that trip to the most exciting parts of Europe and you wrap it up in the form of a story, ideally involving other people like your friends. So instead of saying something like "I work for the biggest firm of investment bankers" or "I drive a silver Porsche boxter," you say something like this instead "you know, I bumped into an old friend yesterday at work, it's been ages since I saw him last. He used to work for Barclays Bank as a regional manager, and he used to tell me that he'll never work for Goldman Sachs, because they're too hard on their staff. I can't believe we're going to be working together again. We were kind of best friends years ago in our first job. It really is a very small world." You see, you would have told her what you do for a living, where you work and roughly what position you hold in your company, all without saying it directly in a self qualifying kind of way. You can tell absolutely ANY story from your previous life experiences which you want to highlight to the woman. You will get your message across the right way and attract women in the process. |
